Dominant is a status. Dominate is an action.
With the proliferation of the underworld thanks to the internet, themes emerge. And with themes come assumptions and misconception. The number of individuals who are touched in some way by fetishism and expressions of alternate sexual identity is rising. While expansion is a beautiful thing, it also ( by definition) introduces complexity to a system. In an effort to stem the inevitable tide of entropy, I offer my perspective on popular points of confusion.
This is the vocabulary of identity.
Dominance.
Dominance is a manner, a state of being. Not an act.
— Bardot Smith (@BardotSmith) July 9, 2014Some of the most egregious misconceptions center on the concept of dominance. There are no hard and fast rules for what contributes to the presence of a FemDom. Dominance sits at the nexus of her carriage and her attributes. How she expresses her value to the world.
Dominance is also not inherently linked to sadism, just as not all submissives are inherently masochistic. These status identities are merely a reflection of the presence and natural proclivities of the individual.
In essence, dominance is a state of being; it is not an act.
Dominate / Domination.
Domination is more performative. There are, of course, multiple ways to approach this task, from traditional bondage, interrogation and mind control, sensuality, etc. Its efficacy depends on the charisma and confidence of the domme, naturally.
A domme may use subtle methods of domination in the world at large, but the idea that a domme is constantly marauding and domineering is a complete misconception. In my own opinion, bratty and manipulative behavior is a sign of insecurity, rather than dominance. I enjoy the natural interplay of energy more than scenes, games, etc.
Besides tangles are best enjoyed consensually, individually, privately. Though, my penchant for efficiency does make me a terrifyingly deserving rinser for those so inclined. (And, if that's you, you know it's only a matter of time, darling. I will see you soon.)
The dynamics at play in the microcosm are merely a distillation of the unspoken dynamics apparent in society at large.
In the world, you would find me relatively mysterious, with calm reserve. A beautiful and dynamic woman, poised and confident. I choose to share My presence and fetishism with individuals who are like-minded.
Of course, opening up your presence to a broader environment requires aggression in term-setting. My attitude reflects the strictness of my standards. My insight and leadership are reserved for those who avail themselves to it through demonstrated understanding and respect.
I choose to capitalize my time and attention as a reflection of the dynamics of supply and demand. It's my prerogative to do so in whatever manner makes sense for the individual and engagement. How you are greeted is a function of your energy, and your approach. Do you now understand?
Concisely, I spin a web.
I will not tell you where the snares lie, only that they exist. Engineered and executed masterfully. And, if this resonates, it is no accident.
xo, Bardot.
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